The Wild Rose

Recently I decided to take a test. A love test. I have heard good things about this test, so I figured I'd give it a shot because it seemed a little more complex than your average online test. Maybe the test was a little too good, though. Maybe it really peaked into my soul and shared something I didn't want anyone to know. But maybe I needed to hear it and see it for myself so I could really sink in and think about my future. I have always felt like I would never really be suitable for marriage or any real level of commitment  but I thought it was because I was scared of being tied down. I am scared of being tied down, but it's so much more than that. Believe me when I say that this test result describes me to a tee, unfortunately, and it is the reason I will probably continue to collect cats until they cast me on the next episode of Animal Hoarders, but I digress.

"Colorful, but unpicked. You are The Wild Rose.

Prone to bouts of cynicism, sarcasm, and thorns, you excite a certain kind of man. Hoping to gather you up, he flirts and winks and asks you out, ultimately professing his love. Then you make him bleed. Why? Because you’re the rare, independent, self-sufficient kind of woman who does want love, but not from a weakling.

You don’t seem to take yourself too seriously, and that’s refreshing. You aren't uptight; you don’t over-plan. Romance-wise, sex isn't a top priority—a true relationship would be preferable. For your age, you haven’t had a lot of bonafide love experience, though, and this kind of gets to core of the issue. You’re very selective.

The problem is them, not you, right? You have lofty standards that few measure up to. You’re out there all right, but not to be picked up by just anyone."

Sad, but true. Though, I can't decide if I'm too sad about it. I'm perfectly happy being this way, but I wonder how long that happiness will last. Is it just because I'm too young? Is it wrong to demand better? Is it wrong to not sacrifice the career I've worked so hard on for an overrated "marriage"? Is it wrong to not let societal pressure dominate how I think as a woman? Is it wrong to think in a nontraditional way?
How can I be independent and still be in a relationship? Is it based on the man I marry or based on something I can do? How do you balance this?

Fellow women, what do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments.

Peace ☮,

Candace

Reason #457 I'm a Democrat

Here's a funny political story/joke for your entertainment on this Sunday afternoon:

A great joke that describes the Republican Party perfectly…

A woman in a hot air balloon realized she was lost. She lowered her altitude and spotted a man in a boat below. She shouted to him, "Excuse me, can you help me? I promised a friend I would meet him an hour ago, but I don't know where I am."

The man consulted his portable GPS and replied, "You're in a hot air balloon, approximately 30 feet above ground elevation of 2,346 feet above sea level. You
are at 31 degrees, 14.97 minutes north latitude and 100 degrees, 49.09 minutes west longitude.

The woman rolled her eyes and said, "You must be an Obama Democrat."
"I am," replied the man. "How did you know?"

"Well," answered the balloonist, "everything you told me is technically correct but I have no idea what to do with your information, and I'm still lost. Frankly, you've not been much help to me."

The man smiled and responded, "You must be a Republican." "I am," replied the balloonist. "How did you know?"

"Well," said the man, "you don't know where you are -- or where you are going. You've risen to where you are, due to a large quantity of hot air. You made a promise you have no idea how to keep, and you expect me to solve your problem. You're in exactly the same position you were in before we met, but somehow, now it's my fault."

"I Must Be Strong"

I know it's been a long time since I've written a blogpost, so I'm sorry for that, but I thought this would be a good reintroduction to me and blogging!

I took this test on a website that supposedly after answering only TWO questions can tell a lot about you. When I got this result, it pretty much hit the nail on the head for me. Check me out:

8 - the Asserter

Thanks for taking the test !

you chose AY - your Enneagram type is EIGHT (aka "The Challenger").

"I must be strong"

Asserters are direct, self-reliant, self-confident, and protective.

How to Get Along with Me

• Stand up for yourself... and me.

• Be confident, strong, and direct.

• Don't gossip about me or betray my trust.

• Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side.

• Give me space to be alone.

• Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don't flatter me.

• I often speak in an assertive way. Don't automatically assume it's a personal attack.

• When I scream, curse, and stomp around, try to remember that's just the way I am.

What I Like About Being a EIGHT

• being independent and self-reliant

• being able to take charge and meet challenges head on

• being courageous, straightforward, and honest

• getting all the enjoyment I can out of life

• supporting, empowering, and protecting those close to me

• upholding just causes

What's Hard About Being a EIGHT

• overwhelming people with my bluntness; scaring them away when I don't intend to

• being restless and impatient with others' incompetence

• sticking my neck out for people and receiving no appreciation for it

• never forgetting injuries or injustices

• putting too much pressure on myself

• getting high blood pressure when people don't obey the rules or when things don't go right

EIGHTs as Children Often

• are independent; have an inner strength and a fighting spirit

• are sometimes loners

• seize control so they won't be controlled

• figure out others' weaknesses

• attack verbally or physically when provoked

• take charge in the family because they perceive themselves as the strongest, or grow up in difficult or abusive surroundings

EIGHTs as Parents

• are often loyal, caring, involved, and devoted

• are sometimes overprotective

• can be demanding, controlling, and rigid