Recently I decided to take a test. A love test. I have heard good things about this test, so I figured I'd give it a shot because it seemed a little more complex than your average online test. Maybe the test was a little too good, though. Maybe it really peaked into my soul and shared something I didn't want anyone to know. But maybe I needed to hear it and see it for myself so I could really sink in and think about my future. I have always felt like I would never really be suitable for marriage or any real level of commitment but I thought it was because I was scared of being tied down. I am scared of being tied down, but it's so much more than that. Believe me when I say that this test result describes me to a tee, unfortunately, and it is the reason I will probably continue to collect cats until they cast me on the next episode of Animal Hoarders, but I digress.
"Colorful, but unpicked. You are The Wild Rose.
Prone to bouts of cynicism, sarcasm, and thorns, you excite a certain kind of man. Hoping to gather you up, he flirts and winks and asks you out, ultimately professing his love. Then you make him bleed. Why? Because you’re the rare, independent, self-sufficient kind of woman who does want love, but not from a weakling.
You don’t seem to take yourself too seriously, and that’s refreshing. You aren't uptight; you don’t over-plan. Romance-wise, sex isn't a top priority—a true relationship would be preferable. For your age, you haven’t had a lot of bonafide love experience, though, and this kind of gets to core of the issue. You’re very selective.
The problem is them, not you, right? You have lofty standards that few measure up to. You’re out there all right, but not to be picked up by just anyone."
Sad, but true. Though, I can't decide if I'm too sad about it. I'm perfectly happy being this way, but I wonder how long that happiness will last. Is it just because I'm too young? Is it wrong to demand better? Is it wrong to not sacrifice the career I've worked so hard on for an overrated "marriage"? Is it wrong to not let societal pressure dominate how I think as a woman? Is it wrong to think in a nontraditional way?
How can I be independent and still be in a relationship? Is it based on the man I marry or based on something I can do? How do you balance this?
Fellow women, what do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments.
Peace ☮,
Candace
